Sunday, May 18, 2008
target audience: people in general, but band people especiallyI have been having this burden in my heart recently and i havethe urge to say this. in my earlier entry about people problem, i spoke philosophically about the complexity of human nature. today, i am going to be very direct about the practical aspect of it. why are there people problem? 1)Insensitivity the chinese says" huo chong kou chu", and i think it cant be more true. sometimes we talk without thinking. we think that we are being humourous but we are just tearing the dignity of others down. we think we are just sharing knowledge with other people but we are just flaunting our superiority against another person's inadequacies. we think that we are just being honest and direct but we are being downright blunt and nasty. we think that we are building another person up but we are just putting people down. our words are just like razor sword cutting through the heart of other people, and we dont realise it, we dont know it, we choose not to know it. this is call insensitivity. 2)oversensitivity while we can be so careless about what we say to others, we are very conscious about what others say to us or about us. we know that we ourselves can be so insensitive to others, but yet we demand absolute correctness in the things people say about us. we stereotype ppl and make a mountain out of a mole when ppl we dun like say certain things. we always suspect tat ppl are against us, talking bad about us and are out to make life difficult for us. we torture oursleves and other people by suspecting this and tat, assuming this and tat. when we can use our brain to do something useful we dont use it. when it comes to negative encounter we choose to think so much when there really isnt much to think. we fantasize, imagine and create problems tat are not a problem in the first place. why are we so work up? 3)poor control of temperament we live in a frustrating world and we Go through all kinds of frustration. this lfe is a frustrating life to live, but how should we deal wth frustration? we may not be the kind that throw temper in the violent way every time we are frustrated, but arent we not guilty of letting our temperament unleash itself on others? when we are frustrated we are impatient with people when we should be, we give attitude to people who HAve nothing to do with our frustration, and we unleash our emo at the most inappropriate time, and we hurt others. in our attempt to make others understand our frustration, WE FORCE THEM INTO OUR SHOE AND MAKE THEIR DAY SUCKS just like ours. 4)Gossip gossip is the act of passing on information when u are neither part of the problem nor the solution. but tats a human tendency isnt it? before we just treat it as just something natural and instinctive, or an integral part of human nature, we should think about the effects of it. the best way to see this is to think of yourself as the object of gossip. |
